“My Husband Won’t Stop Bringing Up A One-Night Stand I Had With A Guy He Hates”

“Years ago, I had a one-night stand with a guy my partner hates. After I confessed to him, he now brings it up every time we argue, especially when he has had a few too many to drink.”

“I had a one-night stand with a guy my partner hated years ago.”

“I am 36, and my partner is 38. We have been together for almost ten years and have two daughters aged six and four.

I first met my partner when he joined our sales team at work 15 years ago.

We became friends, but we were both in relationships, so nothing happened between us, even though the chemistry was there from the start.

My relationship was deteriorating, and I took the decision to end it.

I was out one night a few months later, and I happened to run into a man my partner was at school with.”

“My partner brings it up every time we argue, especially when he has had a few too many to drink.“

“I’d met him before when my partner had brought him along when a whole group of us had drinks after work. He’s 37.

We got on brilliantly and ended up spending the night together. It was only a fun one-night stand, but the s[e]x was great.

My partner and I were not together at this point, and he was trying to work things out with his then-girlfriend.

I was getting on with my life and assumed he was, too. I moved jobs and thought nothing more about him.

Then I bumped into him one day in a shopping centre, and we started talking.”

“My night with the guy he hates was only a fun one-night stand, but the s[e]x was great.“

“We ended up swapping numbers and soon started seeing one another.

After a month or so, I was honest and upfront about what happened with this guy that night. He said they’d since fallen out after this guy sold him a dud car.

I told him that I would totally understand if he didn’t want to pursue a relationship with me, but he assured me he did.

We were in love and happy and went on to have our two children.

The problem is that my partner brings up that night I spent with that guy all the time.

I have apologized so many times and said I would take it back if I could, but I can’t.”

People have mixed responses.

One said, “You were a free agent when you and that guy met.”

Another one said, “Your partner has no right to keep bringing this up, and it is sad this makes him feel threatened after almost a decade in a good relationship.”

The third one said, “His jealousy of your life before him is his problem. Be clear he has to learn better ways to handle his insecurity, or he will kill your love for him.”

My e-leaflet Dealing With Jealousy will help.

Source: The Sun